Do not feed the trolls

Jesus Effing Rice have I gotten into the most frustrating conversations with such close-minded, vile, and stupid people, lately.

Yeah, I’m angry.

I bet that’s a sentiment pretty much all of American can share right now.

And then there’s people on the internet. Hooo man. Do not read the comments. So, you know. I try not to feed the trolls. Only add to conversation where I see people are honestly open, or there’s a possibility for learning or listening from my side.

I really try and remain patient, not get emotional, listen, give them the benefit of the doubt. Except sometimes it comes when I’m not expecting it, and slam, I just stay quiet, with the whistling in my ear of how bad I’m burning inside with the desire to chew this person’s head off.

I get so angry at the lack of compassion that I end up using up all of mine. And then all there is, is Upset.

To help me get my Upset out, today, I get to feed a troll. Some idiot wrote an article that puts a lot of these stupid peoples’ arguments out there, and I decided to just go ahead and let out some steam. And I won’t even feel guilty because the author didnt even have the ovaries to put their name or face to the article anyway. In fact, they wrote the article under the pseudonym Tyler Durden, which has me believe that they didn’t actually understand the movie Fight Club at all, and so I put my response on my blog, with my name, and my face. Because I stand by what I say.

So without further ado, here’s me going into stupid arguments made by stupid people, voiced perfectly in an article written by an anonymous idiot titled “Seven Harsh Realities of Life Millenials need to understand.” I’m not going to link it to him because fuck that guy. You can google it if you want to give him more clicks. I just want to rant, and also hopefully help you process what to say when people say this stupid shit to you.

I could have named this  “7 things emotionally constipated and willingly ignorant people say” but that’s childish and immature so I didn’t because I’m a grown ass adult that eats kid’s cereal while writing self righteous opinion pieces on her blog. I was also going to name it “uuuuuuggggggggghhhhhhhhhhh” but I feel like that should just be the title for all of 2016, honestly.

And since the writer chose to not give themselves a name, I will name them Oscar the Grouch because he’s a big grump that lives in Garbage and that sums up the writer of this article.

OtG starts off his article by saying:

Your feelings are largely irrelevant. Seriously, nobody who has already graduated college cares about your feelings. That means that when you complain to your boss because your co-worker mis-gendered you, he’s probably not going to bend over backwards to bandage your wounds.

First off, LOL. Nobody who has already graduated college cares about your feelings? Does this idiot know that there is an entire branch and subranches of studies around feelings themselves and professionals that have to carry out years of impressive study all based in, on, and around your feelings? It’s called Psychology. Yes, there are a SHITTON of crybabies out there, and people playing the victim, but asking a society to be more compassionate and listening to other peoples’ feelings is exactly how you make a stronger society. Imagine if boys were allowed to cry and express their anger, emotions that are natural body reactions to events that allow you to measure your levels of wellbeing so that you can survive and thrive, imagine if they could love that within themselves, and therefore help nurture that in others, instead of starting wars and drawing dicks everywhere because of their fragile masculinity.

Imagine if women’s emotional strength was respected and considered in important life making decisions, since we’re also –oh you know, entrusted with the children, the future of life– and therefore allowing a more complete human view to any given situation or problem. Imagine if bosses DID learn how to correctly gender you, so that he could correctly learn about how genders work and so when his daughter asks him to call her “him”, he will be able to love his child better, providing better parenting and giving a healthier stronger human who feels understood to the future. The more that people handle their emotions, the better they are and not getting offended or victimized, because they believe in themselves and thus are more confident and stronger. But don’t take my word for it, just the hundreds of thousands of books that have been written, studies made, researches conducted, and documentaries filmed by people much more intelligent than I with PhD’s in literally caring about your feelings.

People that say things like that usually cant have authentic relationships and so have few to no authentic friendships. They value their pragmatic intelligence over their emotional intelligence not realizing that it’s incomplete if you don’t listen to your innate wisdom, which are your emotions. I feel bad for Oscar. But not too much, because I can tell their thick self-righteousness keeps them warm at night.

Oscar’s next “harsh fact” for Millenials:

You cannot be whatever you want to be. This is a comforting lie parents have started telling their children to boost their morale in school. Unfortunately, millennials are now convinced it’s true, especially as society has now decided to push this narrative as well. The reality is if you’re 17 years old and still can’t figure out basic division, you’re not going to be a rocket scientist. If you’re overweight and unattractive, you’re not going to be the quarterback’s prom date. If you lack fine motor skills, you’re not going to be a heart surgeon. It’s okay to accept that you cannot be whatever you want to be. In fact, once you accept this, you’ll be able to focus on the things you can be — the things you really are talented at.

I don’t even know where to start, because the argument is so see-through. First of all, there are people whose literal only job is to babysit baby pandas. Or to taste chocolate. Or to travel and look for dinosaurs. Or to look into a video camera while eating way too much food. So not only can you actually do whatever you want, but you NEED to. Especially when technology moves so fast and there are so many machines that can end outsourcing jobs and making humans being obsolete for certain tasks. At this point, you need to be whatever you want, find out who you are outside of the confines that tells you that you have nothing to offer unless you fit into a box. There will always be a need for anything we want to give out and can do well. The footnote to keep in mind, however, is that just like there is not only One True Person for us out there, there is also not necessarily One True Calling out there for us either. Don’t settle for less than who you are, but be willing to compromise with what you have available to you. And then fight for it, because you’re worth it, and we need your gift.

And to rebute his ridiculous “arguments”, if at 17 years old you still can’t figure out basic division, maybe you spend an extra few years making yourself be good at math with an educational system that does support you, and you just become a rocket scientist later. As far as that stupid comment about being overweight and unattractive not being the quarterback’s prom date, is a stupid and pixel tiny-minded thing to say, because there have been beautiful fat prom-worthy dates, they just lived in a stupid and pixel tiny minded town, but then they met with those beautiful fat people that WERE prom dates, and they said fuck the system and spread knowledge to expand the mind of tiny hateful people. If you lack the fine motor skills, maybe you have the brain to come up with a machine that can help you be a more precise surgeon than the most precise surgeon with the machine, therefore advancing medical technology.

Strive for more, don’t let people that have let themselves down make you feel smaller so that they can validate their laziness. That isn’t your job and you’re doing yourself a disservice.

The third harsh “reality” Oscar tackles on is:

Gender Studies is a waste of money.

This one isn’t even hard. Whoever wrote this is someone who has completely out-dated education, which isn’t their fault, it is their fault however that they refuse to realize that and rather than want the future’s teachers to reflected a more updated and actualized education system, he wants to tell you that no, he’s right, and you’re just an idiot learning something new. It is so often those who refuse to look at themselves that have the biggest, stupidest mouths.

Fourth stinky piece of garbage is:

If you live in America, you’re already in the 1%

Oh ok that makes EVERYTHING fine then. Thank God, everyone can now afford to go to university and that third car they’ve always been dreaming about. The sweet 1% life. Thanks, Oscar, for your blatant facts and mind blowing intelligence that instantly solved all global debt and the economy. It was a harsh reality, but now that I’m basking in all these riches around me, I will now stop caring about the stark inequality that exists everywhere else around me. I am so glad that I read this garbage, after all.

Just because you’re here and breathing doesn’t mean society owes you anything. Like the billions of people who lived before you, working hard is a better guarantor of wealth and the ability to comfortably take care of yourself than begging society or the government to do it for you. Demanding healthcare be a right, for example, is equivalent to demanding government force the taxpayer to pay for it. While that may seem like a good idea in theory, it only leads to rationing of care when costs become unsustainable, which negatively impacts not just your health, but everyone else’s, too.

Wrong again. My ancestors were born into a people that did work hard, they worked the land hard, and they worked their minds, and protectors hard. My ancestors were born into an Earth that provided them with everything they needed, and the knowledge to get more from that with farming for food and gardening for medicine. Then we became intelligent with new things like science and technology. But then people began colonizing, and instead of using the knowledge of all the ancients that knew how to connect nature, and spirit, to combine it with science and technology, we developed greed and capitalism. I was born into generations that had the intelligence to stop outsourcing the Earth and instead learn to work with it. But instead of doing that, I was educated to become completely and fully codependent of a system that would never have my personal best interest at heart, rather it wanted me to work for it, just so it could get bigger. Society DOES fucking owe me. But I’m done waiting around for it to pay up. I am now, taking what is rightfully ours. If it takes years, it will be done, and thinking that people aren’t entitled to being healthcare and a home when you have to pay for water and owning land is not accessible to most people,  is another type of self-hatred that makes me feel really bad for Oscar. Oscar probably spends the entire day trying to prove their worthy, and still not feeling it. I know that feeling and wouldn’t wish it upon anyone.

Except for maybe people that purposefully try to crush others,like Oscar. They can go ahead and feel like garbage. Maybe then they’ll want to do something about it learn to Love themselves instead.

Oscar then frets about how his feelings are more important than yours with his next “harsh reality”

By contrast, you do have the right to live however you please, so long as it’s within the confines of the law. If you want to cross-dress, smoke marijuana, drink lots of alcohol, have lots of sex, and, yes, even go to school for gender studies, then by all means, go for it. Government should not be allowed to legislate people’s behavior as long as it doesn’t infringe upon someone else’s rights, but that doesn’t mean society isn’t allowed to have an opinion. You don’t have the right to demand people keep their opinions about your lifestyle to themselves, especially if you’re open and public about it. I have as much of a right to comment on the way you live your life as you do to actually live it. Your feelings are not a protected right, but my speech is.

lol I love the “and yes, even go to school for gender studies”. You see guys? Oscar is just misunderstood, that’s all. “It’s not that you shouldn’t be allowed to be yourself, because the law should let you do it. You just shouldn’t be allowed to feel good about it, and since the law says I can make you feel like shit, and your lifestyle makes me uncomfortable, you just have to accept that I’m going to be a total dick about it, and if you don’t like it, you’re just a big crybaby that can’t accept the harsh reality of life and how I’m the one that gets to decide what that reality looks like for you, instead of learning to open my mind and see new unique ways of doing things that might enrich me and make me more intelligent.”

If that’s not manipulative abusive father speak, I don’t know what is. I hope Oscar doesn’t have children.

God this is depressing. I’m glad we’re at the end. Oscar’s final piece of garbage spewed was:

The only safe space is your home. No matter where you go in life, someone will be there to offend you. Maybe it’s a joke you overheard on vacation, a spat at the office, or a difference of opinion with someone in line at the grocery store. Inevitably, someone will offend you and your values. If you cannot handle that without losing control of your emotions and reverting back to your “safe space” away from the harmful words of others, then you’re best to just stay put at home. Remember, though: if people in the outside world scare you, people on the internet will downright terrify you. It’s probably best to just accept these harsh realities of life and go out into the world prepared to confront them wherever they may be waiting.

I have to agree with Oscar on this one. The only safe space is your home. And that is why, as generations grow with each unique human, and so many of us that want a better world where more people can be free and happy, we are going to join together to learn how to better provide more and more safe spaces for you. That’s why I encourage everyone to get a support group. Most people want to know how to be more compassionate when provided with the tools, because most people want to be loved and accepted as well. When people refuse to be compassionate it’s hardpressed for them to get it back in return. I try and be as compassionate as possible but sometimes, like now, I let out some steam. I do believe that we should provide safe spaces and spaces of empowerment and support groups so that our marginalized brothers and sisters CAN go out there, and confront whatever actual harsh realities are thrown at them since the world will always gave garbage. But strive to be good, it is so much more interesting and fun and enriching and abundant than just being a self-centered dirtbag that only has money, status, or their so called intelligence to fill the place of friendship and authentic love.

Sorry Oscar. Tomorrow, I’ll pray for you. Today, you disappoint me.

sending most of you out there my love,
let’s respect one another,
be kind to each other.




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