I received a story in my e-mail today that I felt was so appropriate for what we’ve been speaking about lately…Eliminating toxic people from your life and doing what needs to be done to take care of yourself.
This story comes from Ella* who wanted to share her experiencing with eliminating people from her life.
As she explained in her e-mail, Ella’s mother and sister are untreated mentally ill. Her twin sister is violent autistic, and was beating her up every day. Her mother would forget to save money for food, putting Ella in a situation where her and her sisters had no food for weeks at a time. Finally one day she contacted her grandmother, and after a complicated process, was able to move with her to Los Angeles along with her older sister.
Ella then writes about how her grandmother said she had to be doing something with her life. Ella asked for a gym membership, not really sure why that’s what she felt would help, and it ended up being the best decision she could have made for herself.
Ella not only reached out within her own context to help save her and her older sister from the challenges they were facing with their family, but then had the initiative to look for a creative and different solution as a way to begin new habits in her life.
And that is such an important step. Every day, try again, start something new. Not everything that works for others will work for you, you have to find your thing, your remedy.
Ella did it with the help of her grandmother and older sister, but mostly she did it because she continues to make good decisions for herself every day.
Tell me your story, what have you done to help you move forward? What’s your success story?